A long time without passing by… but oh my.. I’ve to leave a comment here.

Please! don’t let my hero falls!!! (jajaja! just a figure of speech).

Well I agree with all the opinions about having and not having kids. But more with that one that says its matter of choice. Not an obligation nor a must. Why should it be that way?

I’m a woman on my 30′s and eeeeverybody its bugging me with the stuff of the kids. Even the persons that I thinks they know me (my family for example) And don’t believe that I don’t have thaaat need on me (its like my “mother instict” was removed surgically). Its a bit difficult choice to make here in my country (where everybody “have to” have childrens.. like bunnies, otherwise you’re incomplete).

Anyway in the search of your own “happysadness” thinks that should be a little “jeroen” go ahead.

Kisses

On the serious tone, everybody can leave something behind. Geniuses or influential people leave something that will live after their death, be it a painting, a photo or a scientifical invention (even a cartoon!)
The rest of the world can make babies. Or not. But the idea of the baby, in my conception, is not to transmit genes or have a help when you’re old, it’s something… you start feeling. It came with age.
Yeah, the puke and the noise and the nights in which you don’t sleep are terrible, but the miracle of discovery: uuuuh, tiny fingernails! uuuh, the baby wants to know why the sky is blue! it’s re-discovering the world through the eyes of something similar to you, but different… like a second childhood.

damn, i sounded more corny than Bart, i hope you still have the brown bag

Wooha!

(Geddit? Lego? Block? Lego block? Geddit? Geddit?)

Anyway, don’t try to rationalise it. Having kids is about love (corny eh? there’s a brown bag under your seat). You’ll never experience love like the one you feel for your kids. Seriously, you’ll even love their snot and puke and stuff.
One thing though, as someone who waited a long time to become father: the longer you wait, the harder it is to get out of bed in the middle of the night to warm up a bottle.

Get yourself a younger wife. One that likes to breastfeed. Makes a hell of a difference for your night rest.

(and yes, I think that money is important and choosing to have sex without contraception and thinking that “the society, the government” will help is just rude. When we buy a car we consider how much the spare parts will cost, or how much fuel it takes, I’m not putting a equals sign between kids and a car but I’m saying about PLANNING.) So you have your house/flat, job, life-partner, and the need for a child – have it. But if not… wait longer

I saying to you again – your cartoon is read in most of the European countries, look on statistics, not yet a celebrity on the first pages of magazines but you are thought about You won the cartoon awards, I think that you are recognisable in Belgium, wasn’t it your goal ? I know, goals change, like our dreams when they finally come true but being greedy…

Adding to that, the snot shit puke part – which was very well summarized by someone who doesn’t have kids, congrats on that – is for me completely wiped away by the smiles, hugs and funny surprises they deliver to you on a daily basis. Just don’t ask me this question on a Monday morning at about 7.45

You are forgetting the compound influence of having kids:

– you are also your grandfather legacy, in a way; if he decided not to have kids, that line would have stop there, and all the things you and your father did wouldnt have happened.

By having children, you are creating new possibilities in the future.

Of course, im not advocating that everyone has to have kids (the falling birthrate IS creating problems AND mitigating others), that is everyones choice.